Not exactly my first blog post... but pretty cool. :)

You'll see a lot of Kali related art work, from me, she's my favorite, and she embodies everything that I represent. 

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The Fisherman and His Wife

Taken from: http://www.authorama.com/grimms-fairy-tales-10.html

There was once a fisherman who lived with his wife in a pigsty, close by the seaside. The fisherman used to go out all day long a-fishing; and one day, as he sat on the shore with his rod, looking at the sparkling waves and watching his line, all on a sudden his float was dragged away deep into the water: and in drawing it up he pulled out a great fish. But the fish said, ’Pray let me live! I am not a real fish; I am an enchanted prince: put me in the water again, and let me go!’ ’Oh, ho!’ said the man, ’you need not make so many words about the matter; I will have nothing to do with a fish that can talk: so swim away, sir, as soon as you please!’ Then he put him back into the water, and the fish darted straight down to the bottom, and left a long streak of blood behind him on the wave.

 

When the fisherman went home to his wife in the pigsty, he told her how he had caught a great fish, and how it had told him it was an enchanted prince, and how, on hearing it speak, he had let it go again. ’Did not you ask it for anything?’ said the wife, ’we live very wretchedly here, in this nasty dirty pigsty; do go back and tell the fish we want a snug little cottage.’

 

The fisherman did not much like the business: however, he went to the seashore; and when he came back there the water looked all yellow and green. And he stood at the water’s edge, and said:

 

 ’O man of the sea!

  Hearken to me!

  My wife Ilsabill

  Will have her own will,

  And hath sent me to beg a boon of thee!’

Then the fish came swimming to him, and said, ’Well, what is her will? What does your wife want?’ ’Ah!’ said the fisherman, ’she says that when I had caught you, I ought to have asked you for something before I let you go; she does not like living any longer in the pigsty, and wants a snug little cottage.’ ’Go home, then,’ said the fish; ’she is in the cottage already!’ So the man went home, and saw his wife standing at the door of a nice trim little cottage. ’Come in, come in!’ said she; ’is not this much better than the filthy pigsty we had?’ And there was a parlour, and a bedchamber, and a kitchen; and behind the cottage there was a little garden, planted with all sorts of flowers and fruits; and there was a courtyard behind, full of ducks and chickens. ’Ah!’ said the fisherman, ’how happily we shall live now!’ ’We will try to do so, at least,’ said his wife.

 

Everything went right for a week or two, and then Dame Ilsabill said, ’Husband, there is not near room enough for us in this cottage; the courtyard and the garden are a great deal too small; I should like to have a large stone castle to live in: go to the fish again and tell him to give us a castle.’ ’Wife,’ said the fisherman, ’I don’t like to go to him again, for perhaps he will be angry; we ought to be easy with this pretty cottage to live in.’ ’Nonsense!’ said the wife; ’he will do it very willingly, I know; go along and try!’

 

The fisherman went, but his heart was very heavy: and when he came to the sea, it looked blue and gloomy, though it was very calm; and he went close to the edge of the waves, and said:

 

 ’O man of the sea!

  Hearken to me!

  My wife Ilsabill

  Will have her own will,

  And hath sent me to beg a boon of thee!’

’Well, what does she want now?’ said the fish. ’Ah!’ said the man, dolefully, ’my wife wants to live in a stone castle.’ ’Go home, then,’ said the fish; ’she is standing at the gate of it already.’ So away went the fisherman, and found his wife standing before the gate of a great castle. ’See,’ said she, ’is not this grand?’ With that they went into the castle together, and found a great many servants there, and the rooms all richly furnished, and full of golden chairs and tables; and behind the castle was a garden, and around it was a park half a mile long, full of sheep, and goats, and hares, and deer; and in the courtyard were stables and cow-houses. ’Well,’ said the man, ’now we will live cheerful and happy in this beautiful castle for the rest of our lives.’ ’Perhaps we may,’ said the wife; ’but let us sleep upon it, before we make up our minds to that.’ So they went to bed.

 

The next morning when Dame Ilsabill awoke it was broad daylight, and she jogged the fisherman with her elbow, and said, ’Get up, husband, and bestir yourself, for we must be king of all the land.’ ’Wife, wife,’ said the man, ’why should we wish to be the king? I will not be king.’ ’Then I will,’ said she. ’But, wife,’ said the fisherman, ’how can you be king–the fish cannot make you a king?’ ’Husband,’ said she, ’say no more about it, but go and try! I will be king.’ So the man went away quite sorrowful to think that his wife should want to be king. This time the sea looked a dark grey colour, and was overspread with curling waves and the ridges of foam as he cried out:

 

 ’O man of the sea!

  Hearken to me!

  My wife Ilsabill

  Will have her own will,

  And hath sent me to beg a boon of thee!’

’Well, what would she have now?’ said the fish. ’Alas!’ said the poor man, ’my wife wants to be king.’ ’Go home,’ said the fish; ’she is king already.’

 

Then the fisherman went home; and as he came close to the palace he saw a troop of soldiers, and heard the sound of drums and trumpets. And when he went in he saw his wife sitting on a throne of gold and diamonds, with a golden crown upon her head; and on each side of her stood six fair maidens, each a head taller than the other. ’Well, wife,’ said the fisherman, ’are you king?’ ’Yes,’ said she, ’I am king.’ And when he had looked at her for a long time, he said, ’Ah, wife! what a fine thing it is to be king! Now we shall never have anything more to wish for as long as we live.’ ’I don’t know how that may be,’ said she; ’never is a long time. I am king, it is true; but I begin to be tired of that, and I think I should like to be emperor.’ ’Alas, wife! why should you wish to be emperor?’ said the fisherman. ’Husband,’ said she, ’go to the fish! I say I will be emperor.’ ’Ah, wife!’ replied the fisherman, ’the fish cannot make an emperor, I am sure, and I should not like to ask him for such a thing.’ ’I am king,’ said Ilsabill, ’and you are my slave; so go at once!’

 

So the fisherman was forced to go; and he muttered as he went along, ’This will come to no good, it is too much to ask; the fish will be tired at last, and then we shall be sorry for what we have done.’ He soon came to the seashore; and the water was quite black and muddy, and a mighty whirlwind blew over the waves and rolled them about, but he went as near as he could to the water’s brink, and said:

 

 ’O man of the sea!

  Hearken to me!

  My wife Ilsabill

  Will have her own will,

  And hath sent me to beg a boon of thee!’

’What would she have now?’ said the fish. ’Ah!’ said the fisherman, ’she wants to be emperor.’ ’Go home,’ said the fish; ’she is emperor already.’

 

So he went home again; and as he came near he saw his wife Ilsabill sitting on a very lofty throne made of solid gold, with a great crown on her head full two yards high; and on each side of her stood her guards and attendants in a row, each one smaller than the other, from the tallest giant down to a little dwarf no bigger than my finger. And before her stood princes, and dukes, and earls: and the fisherman went up to her and said, ’Wife, are you emperor?’ ’Yes,’ said she, ’I am emperor.’ ’Ah!’ said the man, as he gazed upon her, ’what a fine thing it is to be emperor!’ ’Husband,’ said she, ’why should we stop at being emperor? I will be pope next.’ ’O wife, wife!’ said he, ’how can you be pope? there is but one pope at a time in Christendom.’ ’Husband,’ said she, ’I will be pope this very day.’ ’But,’ replied the husband, ’the fish cannot make you pope.’ ’What nonsense!’ said she; ’if he can make an emperor, he can make a pope: go and try him.’

 

So the fisherman went. But when he came to the shore the wind was raging and the sea was tossed up and down in boiling waves, and the ships were in trouble, and rolled fearfully upon the tops of the billows. In the middle of the heavens there was a little piece of blue sky, but towards the south all was red, as if a dreadful storm was rising. At this sight the fisherman was dreadfully frightened, and he trembled so that his knees knocked together: but still he went down near to the shore, and said:

 

 ’O man of the sea!

  Hearken to me!

  My wife Ilsabill

  Will have her own will,

  And hath sent me to beg a boon of thee!’

’What does she want now?’ said the fish. ’Ah!’ said the fisherman, ’my wife wants to be pope.’ ’Go home,’ said the fish; ’she is pope already.’

 

Then the fisherman went home, and found Ilsabill sitting on a throne that was two miles high. And she had three great crowns on her head, and around her stood all the pomp and power of the Church. And on each side of her were two rows of burning lights, of all sizes, the greatest as large as the highest and biggest tower in the world, and the least no larger than a small rushlight. ’Wife,’ said the fisherman, as he looked at all this greatness, ’are you pope?’ ’Yes,’ said she, ’I am pope.’ ’Well, wife,’ replied he, ’it is a grand thing to be pope; and now you must be easy, for you can be nothing greater.’ ’I will think about that,’ said the wife. Then they went to bed: but Dame Ilsabill could not sleep all night for thinking what she should be next. At last, as she was dropping asleep, morning broke, and the sun rose. ’Ha!’ thought she, as she woke up and looked at it through the window, ’after all I cannot prevent the sun rising.’ At this thought she was very angry, and wakened her husband, and said, ’Husband, go to the fish and tell him I must be lord of the sun and moon.’ The fisherman was half asleep, but the thought frightened him so much that he started and fell out of bed. ’Alas, wife!’ said he, ’cannot you be easy with being pope?’ ’No,’ said she, ’I am very uneasy as long as the sun and moon rise without my leave. Go to the fish at once!’

 

Then the man went shivering with fear; and as he was going down to the shore a dreadful storm arose, so that the trees and the very rocks shook. And all the heavens became black with stormy clouds, and the lightnings played, and the thunders rolled; and you might have seen in the sea great black waves, swelling up like mountains with crowns of white foam upon their heads. And the fisherman crept towards the sea, and cried out, as well as he could:

 

 ’O man of the sea!

  Hearken to me!

  My wife Ilsabill

  Will have her own will,

  And hath sent me to beg a boon of thee!’

’What does she want now?’ said the fish. ’Ah!’ said he, ’she wants to be lord of the sun and moon.’ ’Go home,’ said the fish, ’to your pigsty again.’

 

And there they live to this very day.

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Cocktail for insanity?

Yesterday, I woke up at 12pm.

I have not been to bed since. And I'm not tired. I had a fairly busy day, ran errands early on, did some housecleaning, didn't eat until around 8pm. Started to get a little sleepy around that time, but then an odd thing happened: I got my second wind, and it seemed to come out of nowhere.

But that's not entirely true.  I have been playing around with different smoothie variations, and since I can't stand the taste of liver I do usually take powdered liver in a smoothie. I had that, mixed with fresh coconut, pure coconut oil, pineapple, lemon/lime juice. Then after I drank that had a pinch of tao salt. It was around 7pm when I did this, then ate dinner around 8pm. Had ONE margarita after 12 midnight, stayed up chatting with friends, and proceeded to turn right around at 4am this morning and do some work.

Under normal circumstances I probably would be exhausted right now and feel like garbage. I do not. Oh yeah, and had some raw ginger earlier in the day because my throat was starting to bother me. Well the sore throat is gone, I did not take any medicine for it either, and I am unusually perky at 5 in the morning for someone who's been up since 12 the day before. 

I don't think I blogged about the energy boost liver gives you.. raw liver at that, even if you take liver in powdered form (dessicated raw liver powder), it will basically kick you right in your ass as far as getting energy goes, and combine that with coconut, raw fresh coconut and coconut oil, which is good for energy and your immune system, and a host of other things; and of course the tao salt, which I've mentioned before will zap any desire you had to sleep for hours on end. So imagine taking three things at once that are well known for giving a natural energy boost. Correction: 4 things. While I did not eat a lot of ginger, a little goes a long way, and ginger can boost energy as well.

Long story short, now I know what to eat when my energy levels are low.

So what's the secret recipe for my magic cocktail? Truth is I don't use recipes, I kind of just toss everything (except the tao salt) into the blender and let er rip. It is now 5:30 in the morning... still not tired. Is this what it feels like to be immortal? Healing at light speed, not needing sleep, and bouncing off the walls? There are only some of us that can say for sure. *wink*

 

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Greetings from the mile high bloggers club.

Had a great time in Cali for the Coachella fest. Got to see friends, hang out, see good music; you will not hear ANY complaints from me. I'm blessed and in realizing that it makes everything else easier to deal with. However I do have a lot of work to do spiritually, mentally, emotionaly, and physically. So back into the cocoon I go, with a clear mind, and a full stomach.

Yeeeeaaahhh so you know how when you are on vacay you eat like well... like you have no home training? I'll be kicking my ass for that later. The upside to eating/drinking at outdoor festivals is that you are 1. moving around a lot. 2. you do A LOT of walking. 3. You're in the sun. So basically you burn off a good portion of the food and all of the alcohol. Besides, I drink responsibly, and stay hydrated while doing so, annnnnnd take noagin *wink*. So other than being tired from lack of sleep, no hangover.

That's all for now folks, talk to you soon!

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Having a cup of coffee? Put down that cheeseburger.

Under normal circumstances, I do not eat anything with my morning/early afternoon cup of coffee, which is usually what I start my day with. I also usually do not eat for several hours after I first wake up. So today, for some odd reason I got the remarkably BRILLIANT idea, while drinking my coffee, that I wanted a swiss burger. No bread, I don't eat carbs or sugar when dieting.

Great idea right? WRONG. So I'm drinking my coffee and grilling my burger, then eating my burger, then finished off my coffee....

Several minutes later I'm sitting in front of my computer and my vision starts to get fuzzy, you know how when you get dizzy you start to see stars stripes and elephants? (At least when I used to have dizzy spells when I was 5 mos pregnant with my daughter, I did.) Well that's what I started seeing. And I'm sitting there thinking... WTH????? What's the matter with me? Why am I feeling dizzy?

If you're clueless as to why my eating a cheeseburger while drinking my large cup of coffee would make me dizzy, read this: http://bioprin.posterous.com/how-to-survive-your-danger-packed-cup-of-coff

Yes that's right, those folks at Biodrux KNOW what they are talking about! Basically that wonderful cup of coffee you're drinking will give you energy, but if you're drinking it with your meal it will leech your iron and block you from absorbing the nutrients in that cheeseburger. And you might pass out....

Unless you have some tao salt and noagin on hand, which zaps that nasty side effect almost immediately. Whew!

Also, technically speaking you probably won't get all of the iron out of that cheeseburger... if you eat it with cheese. Dairy blocks iron absorption as well, which is another reason I don't eat anything until 2 or so hours after I've had my coffee. Because while I do not eat sugar, I do use cream in my coffee, and if I eat something meaty, well, not only do I not get the iron but apparently I might risk giving myself a nasty headache.

Honestly I don't know what got into me, but I can honestly tell you that now I FULLY understand why tea time is tea time and not meal time. Crumpets and scones aside.

 

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How to lose weight on a low carb diet and not die of boredom.

There are actually several ways to approach low carb dieting, a bazillion recipes, and of course the artificially sweeteners and flavorings for those of you who absolutely have to have sweets while low carb dieting.

But let's face it, a lot of the "low carb substitutes", taste like cardboard, artificial sweeteners have a funny aftertaste, and in actuality are not good for you. Your best bet in terms of successfully sticking to low carb, is to cook your own meals, and ditch the low carb subs, and stick to all natural ingredients and if possible, organic ingredients.

And there are two ways to do this. You can either go hard core and eat nothing but red meat and spinach, or you could include a combination of different meats, poultry, eggs, veggies, and fats ie: cheese, cream. Hard core isn't for everybody, and if you're vegetarian you probably won't want to eat steak every day, but for the most part there are ways to switch up/spice up meals so that you don't tear your hair out from boredom and lack of food selection.

But before I go into that, here's my solid advice in regards to low carb dieting: If you're going to do it, do it right, and ditch the artificial sweeteners, and sweets alltogether. If you do, your pancreas will thank you and so will your insulin levels. Artificial sweeteners do not have any calories/sugar/carbs, BUT they still trigger insulin production in your body, so you're better off not using them at all, especially if you have blood sugar issues or you're borderling diabetic.

My other solid advice is, if you want to successfully maintain a low carb diet, be prepared to stick with it for at least 4 months. In all actuality it would be better if you stuck to it for life, but I know as well as you do that you may have that slice of cake 4 months later. Or that big bowl of ice cream.

In any event, keep in mind also that people who don't do low carb love to argue that it's not healthy. This is only true if it applies to a person who is a carb type in terms of nutrition. If your body works better on healthy carbs and whole grains, then a protein diet probably wouldn't be good for you. But in the case of lowering your sugar and losing weight and balancing your hormones, low carb diets are essential.

So back to my point about not being bored during a low carb diet. Like I said, if you don't want to eat nothing but steak and spinach for weeks on end (you will actually lose weight faster this way, and yes it's perfectly healthy), you can create several low carb meals in the kitchen that are not only healthy, but you will actually want to eat.

Also, a little note on fast weight loss: We are taught to believe that losing weight slowly is the healthiest way to lose, this is false. You can lose weight fairly quickly and remain healthy doing so. As a matter of fact, the reason you lose weight so fast during low carb is because your body will, very quickly, get rid of what it doesn't need, ie: water weight and fat. And actually the same thing will happen if you go on a veggie or veggie juicing diet or fast. If you eat nothing but raw vegetables & veggie juice for a week, not only will you lose weight but you'll have the worlds cleanest colon. And you'll get a crazy, out of this world energy boost.

Vegetarians will like that little tidbit of info.

Another diet myth: Exercise is necessary to lose weight.... false. Even if you sat on your ass for the entire first week you began a low carb diet, you'd still lose weight, your body would still cleanse itself, and in actuality if you do want to exercise during weight loss, I would suggest yoga and stretching... if nothing else. Oh, and pole dancing.

People don't give the human body the credit it is due, honestly. The human body was built to improve upon itself, and a perfectly functional healthy system will do just that. If you're sick or chronically ill, it is actually possible to reverse whatever is ailing you, and I'll do another blog on the what's/why's/how's your emotions and mental health are important and effect your healing power.

And again, back to making yummy, healthy, low carb food. Here's a list, literally, of different meals you can make on a low carb diet:

Stir fry with chicken, beef, seafood, veggies (I would not suggest pork, but if you eat it, that's your decision)
Omelet's with fresh vegetables added.
Casseroles
Souffle's (You can make souffle's easy, all you need is eggs, cheese, meat if you want, veggies, seasoning, etc.)
Substitute Cauliflower for rice to make chicken and rice dishes.
You can also make mock mashed potatoes with cauliflower, and mock mac and cheese with cauliflower.
No Bean Chili (I almost forgot about this!)
Salmon cakes
Crab cakes
Liver w/veggies. Liver is very good for you, especially if you need the iron, but getting me to eat it is like pulling teeth, so I opted for the less scary liver powder, which you can put into capsules.

And you can play around with any or all of these, I love spicy food so a lot of times I'll make spicy dishes. Your food DOES NOT have to be bland if you're on a low carb diet.

So there you go, if you have any questions for me, feel free to ask away. The main reason I posted this is because I need to get myself motivated again, and I love steak, but honestly I don't want to eat it everyday. I go through periods of craving nothing but steak, but once that's over, I want something else. Hope this has been helpful to you, and happy eating! More importantly, happy living!

Love Letters from the Ether...

Little Dragon - Constant Surprises

I was walking home
Looking at the trees
Got the feeling that they
Were looking back at me

Thoughts that occurred to me
Where not of the usual kind
And I don’t take it granted no
I don’t call them mine
I don’t call them mine
‘Cause in my life things
Are built on

Constant surprises
Coming my way
Some call it coincidence
But I like to call it fate

Constant surprises
Coming my way
Some call it coincidence
But I like to call it fate

The higher forces want to connect
Last night in my dream I was talking to you
You know who you are
Were you dreaming too
‘Cause in my life
Things are built on
Are built on

Constant surprises
Coming my way
Some call it coincidence
But I like to call it fate

Then on my way home I met this guy
He was not so shy
You know not that kind
We spoke then suddenly I could read his mind
You think it’s mad
But I don’t fool myself
You think its odd
‘Cause in my life
In my life things are built on
They built on
They built on

Constant surprises
Coming my way
Some call it coincidence
But I like to call it fate

Constant surprises
Coming my way
Some call it coincidence
But I like to call it fate

Losing my train of thought...

When I'm happy I'm happy, when I'm sad I'm sad. Might sound simple to you, but for some you need to hear this.

I really don't care about your opinion. Don't get offended, you know damn well you don't care about mine. I live my life for me, when I want to laugh, I laugh; when I want to engage, I do so. And when I have had enough of you, you, and you, and the entire lot of humanity, I bounce, and go play the Sims.

In the past couple of weeks I have watched people fall in love; I have watched people disappear and make asses of themselves in the process; I have extended a helping hand to a friend. And to be quite honest with you, all that happened, and everything in between, has been both splendid, and emotionally exhausting.

I love you guys (you know who you are), but sometimes you get on my damn nerves. And I'm sure I get on your nerves to..... this is me you're talking too, who rides lifes roller coaster and doesn't wear a seatbelt, or watch her mouth for that matter.

It's all blissfully splendid and I wouldn't change a thing, even if I do want to chokeslam someone once in a blue moon. I am honest, I change my mind about things sometimes, and sometimes I just don't care; and if you say otherwise I can and will tell you to go fuck yourself to your face. Try me.

I am a member of the church of Idon'tgiveafuckedness. And basically what that means, is that I'm the boss of me. I curse, I'm vulgar at times, I love talking about sex, I love talking about love, and I love life. Period. With all of its ups and downs. And if you know me you also know that my love knows no bounds. If I have love for you, you should never take it for granted and you'd be a fool to do so.

I have an effect on people and people have an effect on me, so it's a two way street. It's probably also the reason I withdraw from time to time. Human emotions can be overwhelming when they're coming from more than one person at one time. What's this blog about? This blog is about my thoughts; this blog is about stfu and don't tell me what to do if you aren't going to listen to what I have to say. This blog is about stfu and don't expect anyone to listen to you if you can't see both sides of the story. I do, and right now among my friends and sisters I see life happening, I see love happening, and it's all amazing, awesome powerful and wonderful.

My advice to all of you: See the miracles that are right in front of you. Appreciate them. Be grateful.

Why you SHOULD be selfish

I'm going to make this short and sweet... oftentimes a lot of people search externally for what they already have: love, acceptance, affection. The key to finding what you're searching for is realizing you already have it. Everything you want in life is already encoded, meaning internal. If you're searching outside of yourself, for something that's already there, you're going to get frustrated, and you're probably going to end up resenting everyone around you.

 

Think about it, being selfish can be healthy for you, for the simple fact that if you don't take care of you, no one else is going to do it for you. And if you don't know how to take care of yourself, no one else is going to know either. They will do, what they think is best for you, you putting your well being in their hands, and you will end up resenting them for doing what you should have been doing from the get-go. TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF.

 

Sometimes being selfish can come off as being bitchy or unkind, but in reality if you're doing what's best for you, not everyone is going to be happy for you, 100% of the time. When you're happy, you can't expect everyone else to be happy, or feel what you feel, so you shouldn't get upset if everyone isn't in alignment with you and your wellbeing. Everyone isn't you. And you aren't everyone, nor can you please everyone, and make everyone happy 100% of the time.

 

Chances are someone's not going to be happy with what you're doing, and chances are if you're totally focused they won't even be a blip on your radar, so stop worrying about pleasing everyone and follow your bliss. Do your passion, do you, be you, and let everyone else worry about themselves.

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Health Myths You Still Believe

http://biodrux.org/2010/03/how-antidepressants-actually-make-your-more-depres...

http://biodrux.org

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Meat eaters Vs. Vegetarians (And a lil something funny)

 

Correct me if I'm wrong, but aren't vegetables God's creations as well? You eat those don't you? Well then, aren't you eating God's creations on a regular basis, and living things mind you, whether they be vegetables or animals? Point.

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Immortal?

 

 

Coming to a TV near you.

While I might not jump out of your TV any time soon, I am kind of beginning to feel like a Cullen:

 

 

NO. I don't twinkle in the sunlight. But I do sleep a lot less. And I'm not tired. As of late and for health reasons I've invested in some products by a company named JBNI, one of those being tao salt, and I can vouch for their effectiveness. I don't get sick, and if and when I do drink, I don't get hangovers. The products are that good. They are not drugs, there are zero side effects, and their products are great for people who don't necessarily want to be doped up on prescription medication for the rest of their lives.

I'm not a doctor, nor am I a scientist (okay maybe on the weekends), but I can tell you the stuff works. Serenadin is the herbal equivalent of xanax, and will knock you out, and quickly, if you desperately want to get some shut eye. Black Garlic? Not only will it give you a nice buzz, but you won't catch a cold or the flu if you have it in your system, AND, if you do start to get sick, this stuff will knock out your symptoms. Noagin: I'm hooked, antioxidant, that also wipes out hangovers.

The tao salt I only recently started taking because I wanted something that would completely clean out my system and give me a thorough detox. Well you know how they say you have more energy and feel invigorated, regenerated after doing a cleanse/detox? Tao salt does all that, and not only does it give you energy, but you'll probably sleep less if you start taking it. Not because of insomnia, but because your body will be able to do, on 4 - 5 hours of sleep, what it would normally need 8-10 hours of sleep, to do, for some people... like myself, who have had issues with just being worn the hell out and feeling tired.

Again, keep in mind all of the above are products I currently use, I've seen good results so far, so for me it was a good investment. One thing very important that I need to note: With the Tao Salt, a little goes a long way, and one bottle can last up to a year depending on how much you take and how often. All you need is a pinch.

If you're curious, you can check out the website at http://jbni.us for more information on their products. You can also call and ask them any questions you may have, or... if you have questions for me, you know where to find me!

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My thoughts.....

In regards to "The Interview", I really don't know what to say about it. I've already voiced how I felt about what was said to friends and family. It was offensive to me as a woman; it was offensive to me as a black woman, and it showed how little respect, or sensitivity some people have in regards to race and it being a sensitive issue. Not just the racial aspect of it, but how disrespectful that interview was to two of his ex girlfriends.

I wish it were not a sensitive, touchy subject, but it is. I read what Holly Robinson said about the interview, and I agree with her. You apologized for involving her name in the interview, you didn't apologize for what you said about black women. And what you said was hurtful whether it was meant to be or not. And while you might be upset about it, as I'm sure your words were sincere in Nashville, I'm also not accepting that as an apology because it wasn't one, you were merely addressing the issue. Basically what I heard was "I'm sorry for using the N word, but I'm not sorry I insulted black women."

You may not have dated us, but there was no reason for the blatant disrespect, and if you're going to apologize for saying something so offensive, you better have the good sense in that big noggin of yours to apologize to black women. Show some respect... if you have any at all.

To be clear, no, I do not think you're a racist, however I do think you need some sensitivity and diversity training, and yes, you can say whatever you want, at the expense of your reputation, at the expense of peoples feelings, and at the expense of the people of color that are your fans. You don't owe me shit, but keep in mind that I don't owe you shit either. Point blank what you said was the epitomy of arrogant and the truest example of someone being a cunt. Yes, that was entirely cunty of you.

I think you're talented, I don't think you're as smart as you want people to think you are all the time, but if there is anything good left in you, I hope you realize that you will probably never know to what extent your words were offensive and insulting to black women. And again, you don't EVER have to date, or sleep with any of us, but I would appreciate it if you had some tact about you. In what part of your brain, did you think that calling your "organ" a klansmen, wouldn't be offensive or insulting? Yeah sure, you addressed dropping the N word, but not a peep from you on why you felt the need to insult an entire race of females. Which is why, while your words may have been sincere, and yeah you might have been crying on stage, but I'm not buying the apology, because I didn't see one in there.

But hey, what's the loss of one or two fans? Who cares right? Besides, according to a good number of your so called fans, everyone needs to lay off you and get over it. I will put it to you like this: No, not everyone was offended by what you said, but there were quite a few that were, quite a few that were black females, and if you had any clue what it's like to be a black woman in this country (you obviously don't), you'd understand why I'm not accepting your so called, half assed apology. Especially after you said it and then tried to sugar coat it by tossing Holly, Hillary and Kerry Washington in the mix. It's the kind of backhanded, slap-in-the-face insult, that black women have had to deal with for ages.

I hope Kanye has room for you, in his time-out corner.

Public Schools don't want you and your children to have options.

Some interesting information was passed on to me, via my daughters homeschool program (K12), in regards to a house and senate bill that has been intro'd in my state of residence. The bill would basically make it impossible for the program to stay in operation and they would no longer be able to provide a homeschool curriculum in my state.

The homeschool program has been very popular here and in other areas of the U.S. where it is available and there is a fairly large percentage of children in the U.S. being homeschooled (2.9% in 2007), and that percentage is growng. The reason it's growing? Please allow me to be politically incorrect for a moment and say:

PUBLIC SCHOOLS IN THE US SUCK!

I know this is a broad statement, and I am also aware that there are maybe a few good public schools left, but compared to when I was growing up, and all the budget cuts, it's gone from bad to worse. It's gotten so bad that I can tell you, in my city alone, I wasn't the only parent that pulled their child out of public school here and made the decision to homeschool. The amount of children currently homeschooled in my state is currently well over 22,000. That should tell you something.

So of course, for every child that is homeschool, that's another dollar that the public schools aren't getting. The lower the public school attendance is, the less money they get, and frankly it all boils down to MONEY. So now the public school system here is whining and crying that they are losing money because the HS program here DOES receive funding from the state, and they get paid for every child in attendance via the HS program just the same as pub. schools would. So now it's a competition, and the public schools are losing. And because they're losing, now, there are bills being passed in an attempt to shut the program down.

What you need to understand is that this is a FREE, state funded homeschool program, for children and parents who want an alternative to public school. There are private homeschool programs where you have to pay tuition as well, and of course there are also charter and private schools outside the home you can send your child to.  But quite, simply, because the program is free, and they get state funding, they are getting quite a bit of money that the public schools are not. So in a lame attempt to defend and save public schools, our house rep and senator have decided to go after the program.

What do I think about all of this? Well... considering that my daughter is doing much better in school, and considering how much I passionately loathe the public school system as a whole, I think it's a total crock. Everytime pub. schools screw up they want to blame someone else and cry wolf. So right now it's K12's fault that the public schools are failing, and shame on them, and let's shut them down because they are taking all of our money. Boo hoo.

I hate to break the news to you, but if the population of homeschoolers is growing as rapidly as it is, there's really not going to be much of anything the public school system can do about it. People will continue searching for alternatives to public schools, homeschool and even some non traditional schools are becoming very popular, and of course one of my favorite sayings: One monkey don't stop no show.Yes they will continue to try to find something wrong with homeschooling, and parents will continue to make choices beneficial to their families.

I am very happy with K12, and in the event that the fertility gods grant me permission to spawn again (snicker snicker), I will definitely consider the program for all of my children, or one similar to it. But let's not discuss that now, we can save ovary talk, for another blog.

 

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What I do when people insult me.

The very first thing you have to understand about me, is that I do not get offended easily, this is for a number of reasons, including life experience. As far as personal insults go, yeah, every once and a while something will bug me, but for the most part, I've been called everything but the kitchen sink, and I'm still here.

Furthermore if I do get upset, I rarely stay that way for long. Yes it happens, but I simply have too many things going on in my head at any given time, to remember every single insult and offense. I am very good at laughing things off, for the simple fact that most of the time when people are spewing insults at you, they are trying so hard they only end up hurting themselves, and then it's downright comical to watch. I also have to keep in mind that I've probably done my fair share of insulting people, whether purposely doing so or not, so it wouldn't be logical for someone with as foul a mouth, and blunt an opinion, as myself, to run around hollering everytime someone calls me a name. I call things the way I see them, people sometimes don't like this, that's not my problem.

In the event that something does bug me, I would like to say that I give myself time before reacting, meditate on it, and go about my business. Unfortunately... or maybe fortunately, this hasn't always been the case. I am a woman, I have my moments, I don't feel like less of a woman for having those moments.  More often than not, in cases of minor offenses, I eventually forget. About the insult and the person behind it, and eventually they no longer exist in my world, because I simply stop thinking about it, or them.

I think that's how it should be. I don't think people should walk around pissed off all the time because someone called you a name. The best retaliation for any insult as far as I'm concerned, is to not acknowledge them. You'd be surprised how quickly you stop thinking about offenses when you don't give them energy to begin with. Furthermore, what you must remember, is that if someone is insulting you, they are probably channelling some deep inner feelings about themselves that haven't been addressed. If you keep calling someone an asshole, eventually the asshole becomes you. It's all part of incurring your own karma, which is why you should be careful of the thoughts you dwell on and the words you speak. Granted, I'm not saying you won't have a day or two when you mutter a few unsavory words about a person that pissed you off, but get it out of your system, and let it go. Frankly it is healthier for you to do so, because if you're still running your trap about some nonsense that happened months ago, and everyone else has moved on with their existential paths, it is you that is going to look like the fool.

It is possible to erase your own memories, by not thinking about whatever was causing you grief, but you cannot do this with all memories... well you could, but it probably would not be safe for you to do so. Some memories are in place to keep us from getting hurt again, or making the same mistakes. It is one of the reasons I agree with NOT forgiving people. And before you object to what I just typed, to be clear, there are some things that cannot be forgiven because to do so would cause you harm. Think about it.  But getting back to the subject of this blog, get a big mental eraser, and the next time someone insults you, erase them.

It's easier than you can possibly imagine.

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Orgasma-whu????? (Grown Folks Business)

Alright, I decided to blog about this because while it doesn't happen often, it does happen, and the female anatomy is FASCINATING to me (especially since I own one), so I decided to just go ahead and get my thoughts in blog form.

I know that different women are stimulated by different things; some women can climax just by rubbing their thighs together, others by vigorous activity, (running, aerobics, etc.)... me? Stretching. Yes I said it, stretching. I'm not talking the "when you wake up in the morning and feel the need to stretch", stretch. I'm talking the various yoga poses that stretch and tone your entire body, including your legs. And it's usually during leg stretches that the "magical moment" happens for me. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not talking about the type of climax where you fall to the floor and curl up into a ball, or the good old herbal essence "YES! YES! YES!", experience. No, it's much more subtle, but when it happens it's not a feeling that can easily be put into words.

Now I have searched the internet, and have not found much in regards to stretching in relation to orgasm, but I did find one post where the author of said post tied in orgasm, and stretching, and pleasurable experiences. Granted, yes, stretching makes you feel fantastic, and sometimes it's just what your body needs if you are tense or experiencing stress, but climaxing from a calf stretch isn't an effect most people would think of invoking.  Nevertheless, like I said, there are different things that stimulate different women, and depending on your level of sensitivity, you might be one of those women who has had "experiences", while doing your daily downward facing dog.

I have to admit, that things like this are the reason I love being a woman. Women do have the ability to climax in ways that would not be physically or outwardly noticable to anyone, not to mention inaudible. And of course, if you are in tune with your body, and know what kegels are, you probably know a few tricks that your mate doesn't even know about. And I won't even go into the whole vaginal vs. clitoral orgasm phenomenon. Yes, they are two separate things, that can sometimes be mind boggling and frustrating for women, and men.

In any event, if you have had any experiences similar to the aforementioned stimulation by stretching, I'd LOVE to hear from you. And of course, happy stretching!

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When people don't invite you to parties, take it as a compliment.

I've been thinking about this because it has happened to me before, and I'm sure it has happened to you, and if you're feeling bad about it, here's why you shouldn't feel bad at all.

There are, quite simply, only two reasons a person would not invite you out, or to a party: 1. They really don't like you. 2. You're always so busy that they just don't bother inviting you.

If the first one happens, chances are if someone doesn't like you, then you really aren't missing anything, and you honestly don't want to be somewhere you aren't wanted. If the second one happens, take it as a compliment, and don't feel slighted. Why? Well that's simple: Successful, goal oriented people spend more time working on their businesses, schoolwork, goals, passions, and achieving whatever it is they're after, by any means necessary, no matter how lengthy or painful. A lot of times a person who is passionate about something, anything, will probably spend more time on their passion than they do with their friends; in some cases friends may feel alienated or neglected, and to be honest, they shouldn't. I've also seen people lose friends because they chose to spend more time following their passion than they did hanging out and going to parties.So chances are your invite got lost in the mail, or, they just knew you were busy and didn't want to disturb you.

If you are feeling guilty for neglecting friends and family, ask yourself a simple question: Which is going to be more rewarding in the long run? Going to a party? Or working towards completion of your goals. Another thing you should know, is that, creative, passionate, business oriented people, don't sleep regular hours either. In some cases they rarely sleep at all. They don't go out drinking, they don't go to parties, because they're busy working, on whatever it is that makes them tick. So if you've got something you're passionately focused on, don't feel guilty about missing an event, there will be plenty more. Furthermore, your friends and family will appreciate it in the long run, when your hard work and passion pays off, and you are in a position to help others as well as doing something great for yourself.

There are many reasons I don't get upset over missing events, or if I do, I have enough time to think about it and realize that it's pointless wasting energy being upset over something so trivial. I am a full time single mom, part time student, I work from home, and I've currently been involved in keeping a roof over my head and food on my table, and quite frankly, I have not been in a partying mood. I'm also currently involved in getting my preverbial shit together, and keeping what's left of my dwindling sanity; there's only but so much space in my head.

So believe me, when I talk to other people in my situation, or in different situations like say, running their own business or finishing school, believe me I get it. What's a social life? I have no clue what the following year will bring, but I am grateful, as always for the experience. So do me a favor, the next time you get snubbed, take it as a compliment, it means you're focused.

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Ever dislike someone and not know why?

I mean, in terms of disliking someone who has not done anything to you in any way, shape, or form. But you just didn't like them and you were scratching your head trying to figure out why you felt this way about this person?

I have, as a matter of fact the inverse of what I described above, happens to me all the time. I like someone, but I couldn't tell you what it was I like about them, what attracts me to a particular person. And I've oftentimes had the experience of disliking someone and not understanding why, really.  It has caused me to ponder what makes people tick, and I've come to my own conclusion about this, so I'm going to share my thoughts with you.

Personally I think that, from birth, or maybe even before birth, we are all pre-dispositioned to be attracted to certain characteristics, physiques, personalities, spirits, colors, moods, foods.. but we're talking about people, so I'll stick to that. Perhaps it is encoded in our dna, or even our spiritual dna, something remembered from a past life maybe, that attracts us, or repels us, to certain individuals. And sometimes it is as simple as this: Sometimes we dislike someone, because they remind us of a part of ourselves that we don't like, are lacking in, or even our own weaknesses.

I couldn't tell you what my trigger is, I can only tell you when it goes off I know it like the back of my hand.

My other theory, is that for the purposes of mating, females and males are attracted to whatever particular characteristics they want to see in their children. That is also the reason why I trust my instincts. If you don't mesh well with someone, chances are you probably should not attempt to make any babies with them. Otherwise you may find yourself uttering these words:

FAIL.

In conclusion, when making personal decisions involving friendships and relationships, you should always trust your instincts. Same goes for business. Would you make a business deal with someone who makes your skin crawl?  I am all for having a deeper understanding of what makes us tick, why we make the choices we do.. I should have been a psychologist, but alas, this is probably about as close to psychology as I will get, for a while. I do know that part of my reasoning as to whether or not I like a person, has to do with some of my pet peeves. If you trigger one of my "peeves" God help you. Not a good way to make a first impression.

But then again, we're only human, right?

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Why yoga, stretching, and pole dancing are good for you.

I bought my first pole in May of last year and have been hooked ever since. Am I a stripper? No. I am not, but you do not have to be an exotic dancer, or stripper, to enjoy pole dancing; the truth is, it is an excellent, non conventional workout, and it works your entire body.

Yoga and stretching are also excellent for your body, because not only does yoga and stretching increase your range of motion, but it helps burn fat and build muscle tone. Stretching in and of itself can actually help you burn more fat, and is essential to building more muscle.

One thing that yoga and pole dancing have in common, is that they both utilize your own body weight to build muscle, and they are both good for an all over body workout. For one thing, in yoga, you are holding several different poses or asanas for a period of time, some longer than others, and you can also hold any pose for as long as you like. You may think that, because you are holding still in a pose, that you are not getting a workout. You are wrong if you think that, and as proof, try holding the downward facing dog for a few minutes and tell me if you don't feel a burn. With pole dancing you are lifting and holding your body weight, which is why it is one of the best workouts for toning your arms, and you will notice that the more you do many of the basic pole moves, the stronger you will get over time.

First things first, you should ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS warm up and stretch before you do any pole moves; not only can you hurt yourself if you don't stretch, but stretching helps keep you from being extremely sore the next day. Secondly, if you are going to do any pole work, you may want to invest in a gripping agent, but you don't have to. There are chalky gripping agents used by professional athletes as well as pole dancers because it keeps you from sliding or slipping and possibly hurting yourself, it can also help you hold certain moves longer without sliding. Even if you do not use anything for grip, the most important thing to remember is to make sure the pole is clean and your hands are clean, also do not use lotions or oils prior to your pole work because, as common sense would probably tell you, this will make the pole greasy and slippery.

One of the reasons I love pole dancing, and stretching/yoga, is because I hate working out. It's boring, to be frank, and I can get a better workout doing a twirl than I can running on a treadmill. Even though I love weight training because I love the results and the muscle you gain, you can actually achieve those same results doing various yoga poses. If you sit in chair pose for long enough your thighs will be burning and also, toning. So there you have it, and below is a pole dance video, I am nowhere near able to do what these ladies can do, but I'm getting there.

You're not getting any younger, sweetheart.

Really? According to whom? You obviously don't know me; if you knew me you'd know that I'm laughing right now, and I laugh everytime someone says "you're not getting any younger". Meaning you'd better hurry up and find a man. This is not a preempted blog, by the way, it's just that I've heard both men and women say this over and over again. Why do some people seem to think a woman's happiness is solely reliant on having a man and getting married?

Not that it wouldn't be nice, but I'm not worried about it. I think about it from time to time, but I'm not worried. Besides, I am too busy right now to give a flying fart about "finding a man". I'd personally like to get my own house in order before I go desperately flying off on my broomstick in search of mister right. Notice I said broomstick.... you might think I'm playing but....

We can talk about that later. (Evil laughter) Last person I knew that "hurried up and found a man", ended up with a $20,000+ wedding, and a drug addict who landed himself in jail. The only thing I'm about to hurry up and do, is scratch my left buttcheek. I could tell you a lot about me, but there's no point in me doing that, really. All you need to know is that I am happier than I have been in oh.... years, and my life has changed a lot in the past five years. It just keeps getting better everyday, which is why I'm not concerned about the cobwebs currently taking up residence in my womb, it makes for cozy decor.

My life, quite frankly, does not revolve around getting married. Yes, I'd like to, I think marriage is friggin awesome, love is awesome, men are awesome, and so's my ass. Male anatomy is awesome too, but let's not go there right now. My advice to any females out there who are in panic mode right now because they aren't married with kids? Let it go, take care of yourself, your body/mind/spirit is YOUR NEST, take care of your nest. And when your nest is in order, everything else will happen as it should. Society will tell you, that if you are not married by age blabbity blah, you are a failure and should just jump off a cliff. Society will also tell you that the majority of the stuff on supermarket shelves is good for you. We already know the latter is not true.....

Truth is I am a defiant, stubborn, confident, emotionally volatile, intelligent, open minded, unorthodox, woman. I do not listen to people when they attempt to give me advice on how I should be living my life. Mostly because they aren't me, and they don't know what makes me tick. What does make me tick? Life. And everything in it. I curse, I talk about sex, I don't go to church. I'm everything your mother probably warned you about. And I will make your head spin if you try me.

So ladies, do you, don't worry about the men, there are plenty of them. Take care of you.

P.S. Yes I am aware that I said I was emotionally volatile. Why should I lie? Translation: Tempermental, Passionate. You do the math, and get back to me.

I'm not lis-ning to ur roolz....

This is a blog about relationships, marriage, companionship, love. While I am fully supportive of the union of marriage, love, being in a committed relationship, etc. What I am not a co-signee of, is sacrificing yourself, your identity, your happiness, for the sake of someone elses happiness.

Sadly, I see it happen all the time. Your spouse/lover/mate does not approve of something you like doing, something that makes you happy, so you stop doing it, to make them happy, because you love them.

And then you end up miserable. Why? Because you sacrificed yourself for the sake of someone elses security, and happiness. Something you should never do. Not even for your s/o, and I'm going to tell you why you shouldn't.

You are responsible for your own happiness, not anyone elses. If someone elses being happy relies solely on what you do or don't do for them, and to go one step further, relies on controlling you and what you do in your life, then that person might need a mental stability check. And the same can be said for you, if you are the controlling person in the relationship. If you don't like something that your partner does that makes them happy, guess what? You don't have to.

You should ALWAYS do what makes YOU happy, so long as you do not harm anyone else or yourself. And in some cases you may be harming yourself, if you are not doing the things that bring you bliss in life. And it is also very easy to do the things you want in life, without hurting anyone.

Unfortunately, real talk, this isn't always the case, and I see it happen more often than not, one persons happiness is reliant on whether or not their spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend approves. I've been guilty of doing it, and well, I've had it happen to me. And it happens regardless of whether male or female. I've seen husbands miserable because they "couldn't" do something they really wanted to, like travel or a hobby or hanging out with buddies, because their wife would throw them out of the house if they did.

I've seen women, myself included, miserable because we felt trapped in a situation that made us unhappy. And a lot of times, in both cases, it had to do with our own insecurities, and the insecurities of our controlling mates. I've been on both sides. Thankfully for me, I grew out of that mode of thinking, and I grew up. But there are a lot of people who have yet to figure this out.

On the flipside, I've also seen a series of events that led to a relationships end, divorce, and said individuals finally being free to do what they really wanted, and meeting someone who was, like them, aligned with doing what they loved, and being a supportive mate.

Now, to be clear, I would never tell anyone what to do in their relationship. That's for the individual to decide, not me, and everyone is different. But in short, if you aren't happy, and you're in a relationship where you are not happy, not doing the things you really want to do, you may want to do some self assessment, and figure out what works for you.

That may mean taking some risks, it may mean letting go of your current life as you know it, but it may also bring you closer to your true self, your life purpose, and your happiness. Relationships are about sharing, companionship, and enjoying a life together. It should never ever be, about one person sacrificing to make the other person happy, or vice versa. Realistically speaking, if you're in a loving, supportive relationship, you shouldn't have to sacrifice anything.

AND truth be told, you don't have to like everything your s/o does, or vice versa. You may not like movies, and your s/o does. You may like music and your s/o likes going to ball games and you hate sports. You might like going fishing and your s/o might not go near any large body of water. This is small scale stuff, but whatever it is you're into, you should not have to do a complete 360 and crush your dreams.

Yes, I am aware of stories where people left their homes and families in pursuit of their dreams. Some would say it's a very selfish thing to do, and I would agree that it is... selfish, but as far as being right or wrong? (shrug) Depends on how you see things and how you look at life. Furthermore if we're going to talk about being selfish, I will be the first to tell you that there is nothing wrong with being selfish. And in some cases you have to be selfish, because you have to take care of you before you can truly take care of anyone else.

Some would also say that's why I'm single. I would say they're right. I am not a difficult person to get along with, it's just that I'm 1. used to taking care of myself and 2. I like my alone time. Oh, and 3. I know exactly what I want. Even in relationships I think people need to spend time away from each other, it's perfectly healthy, and it doesn't mean you're a horrible spouse if you just want to hang out with the fellas or go out with your girlfriends. I'm also an advocate for traveling alone whenever possible, change of scenery is good for you, and no... that won't make you a horrible mate either.

I actually had some guy bash me for being "too picky". But honestly, why should I waste both your time and mine, by telling you what you want to hear? Would you carry on with someone you had no chemistry with??? I do not believe in settling.... AT ALL. Settling for half a person, is just basically saying you aren't worthy of whole love. I've seen happily married folks too, and wholly in love. I think it's wonderful. It's one of many reasons I don't believe in settling. The other reason being, I've seen some miserable blankity blanks, miserable because they settled and then weren't happy with what they ended up with. I've also wholly loved and didn't receive that same love in return. It happens, and there is nothing necessarily wrong with loving someone who doesn't love you back, but you are, just as anyone is, entitled to fulfilling your needs.

Lastly, hello, this one is simple: COMMUNICATION. Do we even need to discuss this? How do you live with someone and never talk to them? How do you wait until the relationship has nosedived to finally open up and tell each other how you really feel? Makes no sense, but... it happens. My point is a lot of the happily married spirits I know, are happily married because they talk to each other, allow each other their personal space, and support each others goals and intentions. And yes... I do know several people who ARE happily married. It's a wonderful thing.

Remember, if you really want something, you can have it. The Universe helps those who help themselves. So if you really want to do something, just remember the only thing holding you back is you. If you have an unsupportive or controlling spouse, and you're miserable, you are the only person who can change that. If you don't recognize the person in the mirror, you need to find yourself and figure out who you really are. No spouse or s/o can do that for you.

Tech challenged, support your local blogger.

I went to one of my fav bloggers pages, and suddenly realized that I am a horrible blogger because I do not promote my fellow bloggers! What is wrong with me???? In any event I am intent to fix this, so if you have a blog you'd like me to promote via my blog list, hit me up, and for all those (1? LMAO) listing me, THANK YOU.

Got Allergies?

Here's a tip: Eliminate sugars, starches, dairy, wheat and wheat glutens, simple and complex carbs, stick to a high protein/low carb diet with plenty of animal protein and vegetables.

The above might sound harsh to the average American, but not only are you healthier without all that crap in your system, it may also help with your allergies. Chances are, if you eat all of the above, you may be allergic to these foods and not even realize that you are, until you stop eating them.

In addition to that, you can also take herbs for treatment of your allergies. How do they work? Watch the following video and let me know what you think:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mn9dFn3LJgY

2010 words to live by: Light a fire under your ass and keep it moving.

Disclaimer: I can be painfully honest and blunt sometimes. I am this way with myself as well, so don't take it personally.

Alright guys listen, it's now the 3rd day of the New Year. If you're still dwelling on bullsh** that happened in 2009 then you're living in the past and you are going to keep yourself there until you learn one simple motherf***n thang.

If you want to live in the now, and focus on your goals and your future, you going to have to let go of the past. That includes this past year. Let it go. Simple right? WRONG... well at least for some people this seems to be a difficult task.

Letting go basically means you leave 2009 right where it is and move on. If you're still talking about crap that happened to you in 2009, you haven't brought in the New Year yet, because you're still living in 2009. 2009 is over... but for some people it's still going on. Light a fire under your ass and move on.

I'm really not interested in hearing... anymore... about who did what to who, why they did it, who's pissed off at who, cuz to be honest that's not what I live my life by, and I don't care about anybody elses drama and personal issues, because whatever your problems are, they are YOUR problems. Not mine. I have my OWN problems and issues, I deal with my own sh**, what makes you think I want to listen to people complain about... well... anything???? I don't even like hearing myself complain because it's draining.

Yes I know we all need a shoulder to cry on sometimes, I have my moments, but what I'm saying to you is, get that cry out, get that vent out, and move on. If you keep focusing on negative bs and drama, guess what? That is going to be your reality. And life truly is what you make it.

The Universe is a biiiiiiiiiiiiiig place, and there are too many days in a year for you to be allowing one damn day to ruin your life. Or two, or three, or a week. Have you ever noticed that more often than not, when people argue and fight, months later they can't even remember what the hell they were fighting about???? You know why? Because it wasn't that damn important to begin with. You can spend your time being a victim and being mad about what someone did to you, or you can LIGHT A FIRE UNDER YOUR ASS AND MOVE ON. Yes, this is the general theme of this entry.

You can sit around and dwell on bs and drama, or you can choose to go do something else. You know what I do when "humans" start getting on my nerves? I leave. Plain and simple.

I am by no means, perfect, nor am I a "know it all", but I do know what I want to do, and what I don't want to do, and I know that I'd rather spend my time getting things done that will help me out in the future, than sitting around complaining. I've had a roller coaster of a past 12 months, I have cried, laughed, been depressed, had panic attacks, and done everything in between, and I don't regret a thing. The ups and downs taught me a lot, and I'm grateful for the lesson. Believe me, I'm not being a cold hearted heathen by telling anyone to stfu and get on with your life and stop whining.

I'm telling you this because it's what I tell myself. And again, I have my bad days, I deal with them the best way possible. There's nothing wrong with crying, there's nothing wrong with falling down, or making mistakes, but for the love of Shiva pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and realize that one bad day out of 365 isn't going to stop you from breathing.

And one monkey don't stop no show, the show goes on, the earth doesn't stop rotating on its axis just because YOU had a bad day. Don't take this the wrong way but you aren't that important, and neither am I. Because if you were in fact that important, and the earth stopped moving because you had a bad day, we'd all be dead right now. You feel me? And considering that nothing in life is guaranteed, save for death and taxes, you really have nothing to complain about.

I'm okay with not being important, you know why? Because when I get up in the morning, nobody gives a damn, and I can go about my day without anyone harassing me. I do not envy celebrities for this reason. Hey you choose your life, no one does it for you. At the end of the day, think about this: for all the people who hurt you or made you cry or pissed you off, if they aren't f***ing you, don't pay your bills, wipe your ass, sign your paychecks or put food on your table, THEY aren't important. (And honestly is all they are good for is a lay, then that doesn't make them all that important either)

So get up, and enjoy 2010, and stop living in 2009, because that particular year is now over. Please try to keep up.