Sex, Celibacy, and Sexuality

I'm going to share something with all of you, that you may or may not know about me:

I've been sex free for a while now... erm.... like as in years. Why? Personal reasons that are well... personal. No, there's nothing wrong with me, I just made a choice not to have sex. Which would seem odd to anyone who knows me, because I talk about sex a lot, and well.... I love sex, sex is great.... I'm just not having any. And I'm okay with that, for the moment. There are times when I think about going off my no sex sabbatical.... but um.. honestly? There's NOTHING here that is of any interest to my vagina.

I can also tell you that I have absolutely NO hang ups about sex or sexuality, and I don't have problems talking about it either, nor do I think anyone should. I can say that the more judgmental beings on this planet, and the excessively religious, look down on discussing sex and sexuality so freely, and automatically equate women who openly discus sex, with being easy, whorish... insert insult here: _______ I've been called many a name in the past, it really doesn't phase me.

It's really sad actually, that people still feel this way, but it isn't going to stop me from discussing sex, and/or sexuality, and/or the fact that I think penises are neat. And if me discussing sex so openly makes me a whore, well then I'm a failure as a whore for the simple fact that, as stated above, ain't nothin goin on in my love tunnel.

Not counting masturbation.

*shocked gasps of horror*

Listen people, anyone who tells you they don't masturbate is either lying, or well, possibly they don't do so for spiritual reasons, but for the most part, there are quite a few people who turn their noses at the word, but when they're home alone their hands aren't exactly above the mason dixon line if you know what I'm saying.

There's nothing wrong with it, there is nothing wrong with doing it, and there is nothing wrong with NOT doing it either. But people who do engage in self love are not all freaks, perverts, etc. It could be that they just like sex and like getting off and hell, since when is getting off, a crime, and according to whom????

I'm not religious in any capacity, but I am spiritual, therefore I don't buy into the whole, sex and masturbation are filthy horrible things and if you masturbate you're going to hell. Really? Okay well then save me a front seat, I'll be back in 20 minutes; 10 if I've got Mr. Happy on high speed.

Does my talk of masturbation and sex disgust you? Awww well poor you, guess what? Don't read it then, if it disgusts you. The same people that are sooooo disgusted would probably be surprised to know that there are quite a few women that like porn. Porn is not just for men, you know. I'm no prude, I think porn is great, and I also think that some women think about sex more than men do. Don't believe me? Just ask.

And to the men (and some of you women), don't be so gosh darned mortified and shocked to hear a woman talking about sex. Seriously, get over it. And calling us names to make yourself feel better isn't really going to help much. At the end of the day I'm still going to be me, and you will still be you, why not enjoy the diversity instead of trying to convert everyone to your way of thinking? Like I've said before, I'm not trying to convert anyone, I'm just speaking my mind, you can take it any way you choose to, and how you take it, at the end of the day, is really not my concern.

Oh and yes, I hope you're sitting down... I'm a mother. Shocker! A mother with a whorish mouth to boot, God Save The Queen! So what would I say to my daughter if she read one of my blogs? Sex is a part of life, nothing to be ashamed or afraid of, ultimately when you get older you'll be faced with choices regarding sex, be wise, be safe, and don't do anything you aren't okay with doing, and keyword: OLDER!

I know a lot of parents are mortified at the thought of their precious child growing up and eventually discovering sex. I hate to break the news to you, but at some point it will happen; yes even I have issues thinking about it, but I have to deal with it just like any other parent. My advice? If your child asks you about sex, just tell them. Children are smarter than we give them credit for. Just because you talk to your child about sex does not mean they are going to run out and have sex after hearing about it. Talking to your kids about sex seems to be a topic that NOBODY wants to talk about; everyone wants to stick their head in the sand and pretend it doesn't exist. That's a pretty sucky mode of thinking if you ask me.

It is my humble opinion that if you have a healthy attitude about sex, healthy meaning positive, then your children will too. And if you have a good relationship with your kids, then this is something you'll be able to talk about with them. But for crying out loud folks, this isn't the dark ages, sex isn't dirty... well it can be and there is a good kind of dirty... but let's talk about that later. I like penis, I like MY vagina, and if my daughter ever asks me what a penis is, I'll tell her that it's how she got into this world (before she came out of my vagina). Ooohhhh more shocking scandal. So enjoy yourselves folks, have sex, or don't; masturbate, or don't; live your life.